We hear it
all the time. "You never get a second chance to make a good first
impression." In a split second, it is said that our brains judges
whether someone is a friend or an enemy, loyal, attractive or neither. But can
first impressions ever be correct and accurate? Can others read us even if we
do not want them to? And what about the way we see others - what does the image
we get of them say about us?
There are
plenty of books that promise to decode people's body language and personality,
but I feel that they aren't really worth reading. The brain judgment is almost
instant. We need a few milliseconds. However, first impressions are not
perfect. Making a quick decision about someone can have consequences. If the
first impression was a mistake, it can take a while to realize this. That's why
it is important, when making these judgments, that we do not allow assumptions
to take over. It easy to judge people on what you know. We apply our emotions
to our perceptions.
Personally,
I don't believe in first impressions. While they are important, but it is not
just the first impressions that count. It is the number of impressions that
count. I believe in first impressions and second impressions and third
impressions and fourth impressions. Every one of us is human. Everyone makes
mistakes. Every one of us might spill their coffee on their pants going to an
interview, or oversleep or not get enough sleep or have a bad day or be in a
bad mood, or forget a date and time or lose their cell phone or forget to call
or feel sick or just be grouchy. Islam taught me we should give our brothers
and sisters over 70 excuses before you can blame them. Maybe we should learn
bringing this concept in real life and stop judging each other. Ask yourself, how would you like to be treated
if your roles were reversed? :)
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